What can you do after a breakup?
Healing a broken heart.
Going through a breakup can be traumatic.
Similar to other traumas, like the death of a loved one, breakups can cause long-lasting and overwhelming grief. Many people go through depression, anxiety, and panic after a breakup. Your body might kick into fight or flight mode; you might have obsessive thinking about the person, your skin might break out, and your immune system might get weaker. You are hurt. Perhaps you just got out of the relationship or have been having difficulty moving on.
One of the best-known functional doctors, Dr. Mark Hyman, says he had a patient who had an incredible wife. They were deeply in love. They were married for decades and decades. Unfortunately, his wife got breast cancer and died. This man was relatively healthy, but all of a sudden, he went into heart failure. According to Dr. Hyman, a broken heart is in the medical literature, and it causes actual clinical heart failure where your heart muscle can't pump the blood around. It's the physiological phenomenon that happens when you have a stress response. The flood of all these stress molecules in your body damages the heart.
Bessel van der Kolk, MD, a psychiatrist and trauma researcher, says, “Trauma always gets expressed in the organ that is most vulnerable.”
But here is the thing. When we experience so-called "CHAOS" in life, something is trying to change. Chaos has two definitions. The first definition is "Utter confusion or disorder wholly without organization or order." The second definition is "The infinity of space or the formless matter supposed to have existed before the creation of the universe." The first one describes the experience of disaster. Everything may seem going well when we're suddenly thrown by a curve ball, and our life gets out of sync. But the second definition shows a different perspective. It is a necessary part of a continuum of energy fields falling apart and reforming into new energy fields, leading to the Universal Energy Field. With this perspective, Learning, Growth, Healing, and a Higher State of Consciousness are impossible without chaos. From the breakup experience, you might learn Self-love, Self-worth, and Confidence. You might have a deeper understanding that being vulnerable is one of the most courageous characteristics you admire in a person.
The repetitive relationship issues can be from our past events; they could be from our childhood. So, instead of trying to get over the breakup without any direction, we can acknowledge and release the root cause of the real issues, and the process might take some time. Who is the common denominator if we keep attracting the same archetype in different bodies? Experiencing repetitive relationship types or being unable to move on could be a sign of a deeper issue than it seems. We will repeat the same events until we discover the real issues.
Facing sadness is OK. Grief is part of the process, but perhaps it is time if you think you have been suffering too long. It may be time for you to have compassionate self-care.
From an Ayurvedic point of view, heartbreak is an imbalance of Vata dosha. Vata dosha carries variable energy, meaning "unstable," thus, during the healing process, we must avoid Drinking, overeating, late nights, and lack of rest. These habits cause harm to the body and mind. To balance and stabilize your energy, you need to create routine habits such as eating on time, going to bed on time, meditating, taking a nice bath, and giving yourself a massage every day.
When we have a broken heart, we hold emotions like pain, anguish, and trauma in the heart chakra. It blocks lymph nodes in the underarm of axillary lymph nodes and occipital nodes in the neck, which may lead to breast pain, breast lumps, heart problems, and upper back, neck, and shoulder pain. Lymphatic drainage, emotional release, and chakra balancing are all optional to improve flow through the lymphatic system. By utilizing these treatment options, aches, pains, and emotional blocks can be manageable.
The widower mentioned above got better, but it was through ENERGY HEALING. That's what is back in his body, being touched, being held, being energetically reset to reverse the heart failure.
I recently read about Dr. Gladys McGarey, a 102-year-old author of The Well Living Life. Shortly before she was 70 and after 46 years of marriage and six children, she was stunned when her husband, also a doctor and her business partner, asked her to sign divorce papers. He had started a new relationship. She couldn't imagine a different life from the life she and her husband had built over decades. Now she says, "I was devastated by divorce at 70, but still thriving at 102!" So, breakup is not the end of the world!
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